Kids and Behaviour

There are a lot of people out there who see kids acting up or misbehaving and all they see is a naughty kid or a trouble maker and yes some times this is the case but not always there are a lot of kids out there that have behavioural problems and no that does not give them an excuse to be bad it's just an explanation for some of there outlandish behaviour.

I can only speak from my own experience with this situation and i have only recently been given proper information concerning behaviour issues such as ADD and ADHA. And to be totally honest I was probably one of those people who thought that it was all down to how they were brought up and it was there parents fault that they acted the way they did, but i know differently now.

You see I have an eight year old son who has behavioural problems and for years I just put his issues down to him being a very energetic and excitable child  especially as a toddlerand occasional I blamed myself for his behaviour, as he has got older more and more issues have cropped up and it got to a stage when I could no longer cope with his behaviour and sought help.

By going to see my GP about it I got in touch with some professional people who deal with these kinds of problems,  I have been in contact with them on and off now for about three years and only recently have they suggested assessing my son for ADHD as some of the things he does are trait's Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

I now understand why my son does some of the thing he does and why I can't always control his behaviour especially in busy public places, you see my son struggles to control his own emotions. Unlike other kids and adults alike who can get very exited or very angry but are able to self sooth, as in they can calm themselves down reasonable easily my son is unable to do this. This can cause a lot of problems and stress on the whole family and it can get very very frustrating.

I am not making any excuses for how my son behaves and yes he still get punished if he does something wrong, I do try very hard to reward the thing's he does that are good as this seems to help more that scolding him when he has misbehaved, sometime giving him a blazing row only make him worse especially when his temper is up.  Every child that is diagnosed with one of these disorders have different types and trait of the disorder. As for my son and my family we are still waiting to find out if this is what my son has, I would just be gland to rule it out so as we can move on and find some other way to cope with what day to day life throws at us.

People reading this may understand what it's like others may think it's just a cop out for unruly kids, but until you have to live with a kid with these problems, you will never understand, as a mother I will always find a way of coping, but as an eight year old boy, who does know right from wrong, but unfortunately without help, will most often that not make the wrong decisions when it comes to things like playing dare with his friends or doing something another child asks him to do when he know fine well will get him in trouble, something in his little head will always make him take the wrong route.

I love my son dearly and all I want for him in life is to have a normal childhood and to grow up the best he can and make the best of his life, without worry he is making bad choices in life, isn't that all any parent wants for there child.

Friendship

I have great friends but one in particular stands out from the rest, she is amazing and when we get together we are like little kids in a sweet shop lol. Friday for instance she came down to visit me as i can't get out on my own with ma sore foot at the moment.  What a laugh we had i don't know who was worse her or me hee hee, to start with she done my dishes, she's an wee angel and then we sat down for a wee blether wi a cuppa, she had brought me a wee pressie and a get well soon card i was aw chuffed with it as well. Then we decided to make some flowers for me as i didn't have any hee hee, so there we were two 30 yr old women sitting in my kitchen like kids with paper and coloured tissue paper and made some lovely red and yellow flower we were in fits of giggles while making then what a laugh we had.

After finding the perfect place to put them in my living room, we decided we would have an arts and crafts day next week and get all artistic hee hee i have warned my partner that he might come home from work next week to find paper daisy's hanging from the walls hee hee, i defo can't wait for our next session of kiddie play with lots of paper and cello-tape lol we might even get some pom poms woohoo.

Friends can be just as much your family as your blood relatives and i would defiantly class my best friend/partner in crime on of my sister xxx i love her like she is and i couldn't imagine life without having her there to get into trouble with and a good wee gossip or moan about life in general xx


Dedicated to Miss AMcC love u girl xx

life

You know when you have found your partner for life, when the man in your life makes you so happy every single day without even trying. I wake up every morning and fall asleep every night next to the man of my dreams he is everything i have ever wished for in a partner and so much more.  I never have to ask him to do things around the house as he just goes and does it lol, sometimes i am convinced he can read my mind, but he assures me that he can't.  He has always been able to tell when i have something on my mind and he alway manages to help me get it off my chest, which always makes me feel so much better, I don't know another person who i can talk to like i can talk to him.

It's funny how you just know, when that person walks into your life he's the one and no-one else will compare, thats how i feel about the man in my life, i really don't think there is enough words that could truly describe how i feel about him i just know i love him so much and it would break my heart if he wasn't in my life.

It also help that my kids love him to even my son, if any of my kids were to play up it would have been my son, he has behavioral issues and to be honest i was shocked, that this didn't faze the man in my life one little bit, he took it all in his stride it didn't scare him off  not even a little, this only made me fall in love with him so much more.

We have been together now for over five months and it feels like a life time, i really couldn't imagine life without him or remember how my life was before he entered it, i was always told by friends and family that i would meet the man of my dream when i least expected it and OMG were they right.

This is dedicated to the love of my life the only man i can truly be myself around 24/7 i love you so much hunni for loving me for just being me and never expecting anything more than honesty  xxxxxxxx

Dedicated to Mr BF love you darling xxxxxx

Kids

You got to love them lol. I reckon a parents relationship with there kids is a love hate relationship, as you hate some of the things they do in life and as they grow there attitude towards you and the rest of the world has a lot to be desired, but you still always love them no matter what they have done.

My son for example is very easily influenced and doesn't think about what other kids ask him to do before he goes ahead and does it, the things he's done and the trouble he's got his self into is unbelievable. He's fell out of tree's, fell in burns, lost god only know how many phones and i have lost track of how many footballs he has lost or burst out of shear stupidity and granted he is only 8 but come on no-body can be that care less surely.

In one day he has managed to fall in the burn, shoot a wee girl in the face with a pellet gun and loose his expensive phone hes only have for about 6 weeks.  I have no ideal what goes on in that little head of his, but i would love to have a wee sneaky peek just once then i may understand why he makes some of the silly decisions that he does that gets him in so much trouble .

House Bound

Being house bound sounds so horrible, but in reality it's not so bad. Since Sunday i have had to stay in the house as the operation on my foot makes it very difficult to get up and about, but i have one of the best men in the world looking after me. Every morning before he goes o work he makes sure i have everything i need and then make sure my kids are all ready for school, i love him so much, not sure i could cope with being cooped up all day if it wasn't for him.

My routine since being cooped up in the house, well what can i say i only get up to pee, which to be honest is a wee bit of an effort as between the cast on my foot and the weight of he special shoe i have been given to use when walking weighs a tone, it more like dragging my foot or hobbling than walking lol. but i suppose i can't complain as it is only for a few week but them few weeks are going to kill me.  You see i am a very independent person and i am usual the one running around after everyone else, it's just what i do and I've always done it so it's a little strange for me to have everyone running around after me.

Don't get me wrong it is nice not to have to be on the go all the time but after a wee bit boredom does kick in and there is only so much you can do when your stuck stilling on the couch all day, i even had a 2 hr sleep yesterday after noon hee hee i can't remember the last time i done that, but i felt great afterwards.

Today i have a plan of action to beat the boredom i am going to get some coding done for my advanced programming class i reckon i might as well as i have to do it and i have the house to myself so there is no reason not to, it just means i have to use my brain and i mean really use it so will prob knacker myself out a wee bit but at least i will have made an effort to get it done.

I hope my kids behave when they come home from school today as i will be home alone with them for at least an hr maybe and i can't get up to them if they are up to no good, but i have faith in them. this could be a good chance for me to sit with them and concentrate on there homework.

Well i could talk all day on here but i reckon i should try get some food in ma belly before frying ma brain with C coding hee hee.

Bunions

Yip i am blogging about bunions lol, as i have one on each foot and they have caused be jip for a long time, all tho they aren't to big in fact quite small they were painful and it was difficult to find shoes that didn't hurt my feet after a while. So on Sunday i went into hospital to get one of them removed and to be fair in the long run i will hopefully be pain free and will be able to ware shoes without my feet hurting, but i don't think i will ever be able to ware the heels i so loved to ware before my feet started to complain.

PAIN
After surgery i was in a little pain but it soon eased off a bit as the surgeon had injected pain killers
kick in to my foot, last night it was a little sore but my pain killers were helping a good bit.  This morning all my drugs had warren off and OMG the pain was bad, mind u it wasn't sore enough to bring tears to my eyes but still sore, its hard to describe as i have to walk on my heel and when i put pressure on my heel its uncomfortable and the pain starts when i  have to lift my foot to move has the special shoe i have to ware is quite heavy along with the cast that's on my foot but i am coping so far, i just hope it doesn't get much more painful as i don't think i could hold back the tears if it did.

Camping is so much fun

OMG who knew camping would turn out to be so much fun LOL. I decided to go camping with one of my good friends and our kids for 1 night, well for a start i forgot the top sheet for my tent (ha ha ha) but luckily for me and my kids we had a tarpaulin sheet which ended up tied to the top of my tent it was offy braw looking (NOT). Then after have a great night with the kids at the park on the death slide and other various play park rides and my laughs later i discover that i have for got the bag that had all my kids clean clothes in it for the next day ha ha ha. It could only happen to me i swear to god if its going to happen to anyone it will be me. Anyway i was luck that my friend doesn't drive and her dad was coming the next morning to pick her n her kids up as my mum collected my kids clothes for ma house and gave them to my friends dad to bring through with him. 

We are planning on another camping trip soon but for 2 nights this time and i have a new tent with all the attachments lets hope i don't forget the kids clothes again or worse my own lol. 

Camping is so much fun.