There are a lot of people out there who see kids acting up or misbehaving and all they see is a naughty kid or a trouble maker and yes some times this is the case but not always there are a lot of kids out there that have behavioural problems and no that does not give them an excuse to be bad it's just an explanation for some of there outlandish behaviour.
I can only speak from my own experience with this situation and i have only recently been given proper information concerning behaviour issues such as ADD and ADHA. And to be totally honest I was probably one of those people who thought that it was all down to how they were brought up and it was there parents fault that they acted the way they did, but i know differently now.
You see I have an eight year old son who has behavioural problems and for years I just put his issues down to him being a very energetic and excitable child especially as a toddlerand occasional I blamed myself for his behaviour, as he has got older more and more issues have cropped up and it got to a stage when I could no longer cope with his behaviour and sought help.
By going to see my GP about it I got in touch with some professional people who deal with these kinds of problems, I have been in contact with them on and off now for about three years and only recently have they suggested assessing my son for ADHD as some of the things he does are trait's Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.
I now understand why my son does some of the thing he does and why I can't always control his behaviour especially in busy public places, you see my son struggles to control his own emotions. Unlike other kids and adults alike who can get very exited or very angry but are able to self sooth, as in they can calm themselves down reasonable easily my son is unable to do this. This can cause a lot of problems and stress on the whole family and it can get very very frustrating.
I am not making any excuses for how my son behaves and yes he still get punished if he does something wrong, I do try very hard to reward the thing's he does that are good as this seems to help more that scolding him when he has misbehaved, sometime giving him a blazing row only make him worse especially when his temper is up. Every child that is diagnosed with one of these disorders have different types and trait of the disorder. As for my son and my family we are still waiting to find out if this is what my son has, I would just be gland to rule it out so as we can move on and find some other way to cope with what day to day life throws at us.
People reading this may understand what it's like others may think it's just a cop out for unruly kids, but until you have to live with a kid with these problems, you will never understand, as a mother I will always find a way of coping, but as an eight year old boy, who does know right from wrong, but unfortunately without help, will most often that not make the wrong decisions when it comes to things like playing dare with his friends or doing something another child asks him to do when he know fine well will get him in trouble, something in his little head will always make him take the wrong route.
I love my son dearly and all I want for him in life is to have a normal childhood and to grow up the best he can and make the best of his life, without worry he is making bad choices in life, isn't that all any parent wants for there child.
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